Do You Still Love Her?

If you can’t forget how someone broke your heart, does it mean you still love that person?

She left you only to find out that she has a new one. Eventually she got married and now having 2 babies. Her husband died after some years. She was in your home country and you chose to work in another country so you can forget the pain she has caused you. You have moved on. That's what you said. Finally found the right girl you think you truly love and loves you in return. In fact you both are planning to get married at the soonest after two years of being committed.

Unexpectedly while you’re in a busy crowd somewhere you heard a familiar voice calling you. It was not her your ex but her mom. But you also met her that day since she was just around. You’ve seen her again after five long years. Her babies are with her as well. They were all on a tour in the country where you’re working.


They asked if you are married. You’re not so you said no. With your mature age they will certainly wonder. So they asked you if you haven’t found the right one. Again, you said no. They noticed that ring on your finger. But you just told them not to ask. Don’t you think that’s unfair to your present girl, your fiancée? Surely she felt that tiny little pinch in her heart when you told her about it. It was like denying your love for her. Maybe it would be acceptable if you denied the relationship with someone else for some better reasons, but you denied it to your ex-girlfriend whom you have loved so much before. Your ex-girlfriend who broke your heart and made you run around the city searching for her. Your ex-girlfriend who made you opt to leave your country to forget her. Your ex-girlfriend of four years. Your ex-girlfriend who made you miserable in the past. Your ex-girlfriend...

For sure she’d assumed you have not moved on. And you said to your present girl that that was also what you want your ex to feel. But that makes your new girl wonder in silence...

Again, this question seems to keep floating up. If you can’t forget how someone broke your heart, does it mean you still love that person? If you can’t forget the pain someone inflicted on you, does it mean you still have feelings on that person? If you can’t forgive someone who wronged you, does it mean you still love that person?